How are you?

In the almost 3 years of being in this situation of trying to blend a family I've noticed that more and more people ask how hubby is and how SD is and how their relationship is. Only people that were my friends before the situation and who have seen SD for the person she really is inside would ask how I was doing. It's amazing how I became important when SD made her decision. People are now asking how I am doing. People are asking how I am coping. Hubby laughs at the fact that people are asking him how I am taking things. He has noticed that I am having a harder time with everything then he is, but after I found the little "present" left on the closet wall (I hate stepmom written on the wall), things have gotten easier for me to deal with. But I did not realize just how many people did not ask or seem to care about how I felt before. I've talked to other stepmoms and it seems like we disappear when we marry a man with children. It becomes more about the child and how they feel instead of how everyone else is doing. Funny how things work.